"Your criticism of someone can deprive you of his
love."
There are two types of criticism: we can
criticize in order to correct such as the criticism that the father addresses
to his son, and we can criticize to disdain, such as the criticism that the
master addresses to his slave. Here we will pay attention to the first type of
criticism. In this kind of criticism, the critic (father, teacher, friend or
family member ...) aims to raise the awareness of the person who we criticize of
certain negative aspects of his personality (his thoughts and behavior ...) .
But what should we do if this person does not benefit from
our criticism and judges our advice as disesteem? In reality, criticism for
correction is a duty. But it must be adjusted according to the response of
others. If our criticism is not heard, or the one we criticize doubts the
sincerity of our intentions, it is better to be silent and let the days teach the
arrogant what he must learn.
But this method may be possible to
people with whom we do not have a close relationship, but what must we do to
those we love, to those we fear for them, to our loved ones? It is better, in
my opinion, to avoid realizing what they say and what they do. It is best not
to follow their news or ask questions to their subjects. We do this not because
we disdain them but because we love them. We do this by the desire to preserve
what remains of respect for them. If we realize their news and we know their
mistakes, we suffer because of their stubbornness and we lose in spite of
ourselves, our love for them. An end we do not want. So the better in such
situation is not to know their flaws, maybe silence will one day bring what the
word could not bring.